What I’ve come to live by, and what I share with my coaching clients, is that we get to choose our life perspective. We select the lens through which we see the world, and ourselves. Though it may sound like a cliché, I have found it to be true that we have two options: to see life through love, or to see it through fear.
For most of my life, fear drove me to achieve. I was afraid of not being enough, and I created a life built around outrunning that fear, and it worked…for a while. The world reflected success back to me, by its standard definition. It took a full-blown health crisis to bring me to my knees. My body was no longer nudging me, it demanded that I change course.
Shifting from fear to love has had a profound and enduring impact on my health. My relationships with myself and others, and, perhaps counter-intuitively, my successes, are now defined by my deeper wisdom, rather than society’s conditioned measures.
My offerings as a coach are about giving the heart and soul a space to be vulnerable and find the voice of authenticity, however that voice needs to emerge. There is no one right way to show up with love, or to lead with love. What’s your way? For me, it’s messy, it’s confusing sometimes, and can be complex. Every moment, I recommit to what love looks like, asking, “How do I present myself as love in this moment, moment by moment?” It changes constantly.
If you’ve contorted yourself in endless ways to be “successful” yet don’t feel attuned to your own deeper callings or expressing your best self, there is a way to include all of you in your becoming. Perhaps you’ve reached great external goals and hit the mark—at work, in athletics, academia, or parenting— and now your body is asking (maybe begging) you to listen, to do it differently, to change your perspective and approach.
I get it. I’ve been down all of those roads. I pushed myself to excel as an elite runner, completed two masters degrees, in a foreign country, in a second language. I built, ran and sold three successful businesses, and I completely lost myself in my marriage and raising my children. I desperately wanted to get it right.
I want to learn every day, from every interaction, and this includes my coaching others. I want to emanate love in all of my interactions. It makes other people smile, and it makes me smile. It’s connection in a time of so much disconnection. There is no downside to vulnerability, and showing our hearts— even when it’s scary, even when our minds resist and try to protect us. I am a recovering Type A personality who wants to build community around this journey of gorgeous imperfection, building a framework of loving acceptance and accountability as we learn. Thank you, from my heart, for spending some time here with me.
Coaching Sessions
We all come into this world with a certain brilliance and natural skill set. Because of our conditioning and environment, and our family systems, we absorb a certain set of tools to navigate our lives. Some of the tools may work for us, but some may not, like outdated belief systems, assumptions, interpretations, and negative self-talk.
These old, outdated approaches are like going through a closet and choosing what to wear. We would never pull out a moth-eaten old sweater from when we were five, and wear that through the day, but we do that constantly with our programmed thoughts and belief systems. It’s so constricting, sticking our arms through the too-tight sleeves of that tiny sweater, but we do it all the time. We unconsciously wear those old roles and ideas of who we are. So how about we go through your wardrobe and replace the old moth-eaten sweaters with the clothing that suits you beautifully!
Coaching has given me a professional context to share the skill set I already have, and to create a framework for supporting people in their process of self-discovery and mastery. Everyone holds the answers to their own questions inside them. My approach is to provide a safe container as you transition through potentially tough and challenging emotional places that are hard to unravel on your own. I provide the space for your becoming, allowing, and unfolding. I ask challenging questions, especially when I sense dissonance between your words and your emotions, and perhaps even your goals. I hold space for your emergence, without it needing it to be an emergency. There is a way to include all of you, every aspect of you, in your becoming. Let’s explore that journey together.
My primary areas of focus include:
- Navigating life transitions–parenting roles, moving, changing careers, retiring, losing a loved one or the end of a relationship
- Working with empaths, introverts and highly sensitive people (HSP)
- Recovering from codependent and narcissistic relationships
- Assisting the shift from external achievements to internal freedom and choice
- Recovering from burnout
- Finding life balance as a Type A Personality
- Discovering and recovering from body dysmorphia, and disordered eating
- Thriving in a global pandemic
I work with clients in person, over the phone or Zoom. If you are interested in starting a conversation, please email me below. I look forward to speaking with you!
“Working with Aase as a life coach has helped me gradually shift my life toward healthier patterns of thinking, doing, and being. She is at once honest and compassionate, and great at listening and asking pointed questions, using each of these tools and approaches when the time is right. The collaborative work I have done with Aase has resulted in tremendous growth and empowerment that I had access to all along.“
“I was at a turning point in my life and was looking for someone with life experience to provide me with calm, grounded, and practical guidance. Aase has given me that and more. She combines a client-directed approach with her training and intuition to create an original coaching experience. I would highly recommend her to anyone motivated to explore and clarify their goals and life purpose.”
“There are many different styles of coaching, but if there is one thing I can say for certain is that Aase has a completely unique and efficient approach to her coaching sessions and how she treats her clients. She is so intuitive and kind, and she can easily read you between your words to ask you the most powerful questions, which will push you forward toward your goals. Working with Aase I dove into topics I never really thought were blocking me in the first place, and would frequently have massive breakthroughs.
I whole-heartedly recommend this beautiful soul to be in your corner as you jump into your own journey of empowerment, discovery, healing, and self-love.”
Ducit Amore 